I was diagnosed over 3 years ago, and I wouldn’t have caught the cancer if I hadn’t felt a lump.

Still, I focused on taking action and making lifestyle changes. I exercised more when I could, and tried to eat healthier most of the time.

I underwent a

• lumpectomy
• lymphadenectomy
• chemotherapy
• radiation therapy

I also had a treatment plan for managing my pain with medication.

I decided on this after seeking a second opinion for more treatment options, and followed my doctor’s recommendation, as well as my own research.

I felt quite strongly after deciding on my treatment. I felt angry and anxious afterwards. I also felt discouraged and scared about my situation.

I managed side effects like fatigue, hair loss, and peripheral neuropathy with the prescribed medication given to me. Unfortunately I faced some financial difficulties, and had to undertake a mortgage break.

I continued the same lifestyle changes, continuing to exercise more and eating a healthier diet most days. Intimate time with my partner increased after finding out I had cancer. I also found more time to spend time with my children and go on more family trips than before.

I hope to go on more trips, and want to mind myself more. With my loved ones, my biggest dream is to live long enough to raise my kids.

Death and leaving my kids behind. I don’t want them watching me die. I try to deal with my fears with medication.

Some time has passed since I was diagnosed with cancer. Now I feel worried, numb and resentful. I feel withdrawn at times, but there is still a sense of hopefulness and thankfulness.

To those on their own cancer journey, I would say: "Engage with mental health services ASAP… The biggest and hardest battle is mental! Don’t read the 5-year stats. Do your best. Take the help and talk about the reality!"